My friends are all getting married and I am…

Scared of getting old. Now I don’t mean being a granny I mean doing all that life changing stuff like getting married and having kids. Before I turned 26 I would have said I was too young to start thinking about such things but recently I feel like I am being bombarded. Take facebook for example, I constantly find that I am reading statuses from friends or people from school announcing engagements and pregnancies. One of best friends got married last year and my cousin who is my age is getting married at the end of the month. Both who I am very happy for. I guess I find it strange because when I was younger I always imagined I wouldn’t have to worry about settling down until I was in my early 30s. The media nowadays is constantly telling us that women should not delay pregnancy till later in their thirties as our fertility starts decreasing from 28. That is only two years away! In the evening standard today:

“BBC presenter Lauren Laverne has criticised the growing number of women who wait to start a family.The BBC 6 Music DJ, 32, said women who delay having a family in their twenties risk missing out on a “sense of completion”.

Lauren got married at 26 and had her first child at 27. Sorry Lauren what works for you doesn’t suit us all. Some women never meet a man to marry until they are in their late thirties so what are you saying women should focus on meeting a man to have kids first before anything else? Coming from a Nigerian background doesn’t help, in Nigeria girls tend to marry as soon as they finish university. So I have relatives saying “Oh you want to get married soon before you become an old maid”. Sorry relatives I am not going to marry just to make you happy. I am going to live my life the way I want to and for me that means experiencing all the opportunities that my mother never had. I live my life by one mantra; taking it one day at a time and as they say in Nigeria  “God’s time is the right time”.

 

Lanky Girl

3 thoughts on “My friends are all getting married and I am…”

  1. Oh sweetie. What I would do to be 26 again! Please do not sweat it, you have plenty of time to get married and have babies.

    Not sure where you heard that fertility starts decreasing at 28? All the news/magazine reports I’ve seen say that it gets harder to conceive after the age of 35. Oh, would you look at that – I’m 35 this year!

    1. Really I know that to be true. I’m cool just one of my mini rants hehe. Not sure where i read 28?? maybe the daily mail website? Lol i need to stop
      reading that rag…

  2. Good for you, for not caving to someone else’s timetable. It is sad how many people either rush into a life-changing situation before they’re ready… or beat themselves up over not being “on schedule” when some arbitrary birthday approaches.

    You have plenty of time, no worries. 🙂

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