A guest post by dateinadash
For a busy professional, time is the ultimate demon.
When schedules are full and life overflows with pressures and other commitments, you want to ensure that dating equates to fun not stress.
Let’s face it, you have better things to do than to sit through hours of blind dates and trawling through websites to find others – so we have listed 3 easy steps to make the process easier for you.
Don’t waste time going to places you don’t enjoy with people you don’t like!
Sort ‘your stuff’ out
Dating needs to work in your favour – which is ultimately, finding someone YOU want to pursue a relationship with in the shortest amount of time. Most of the drama comes when we project our ‘own stuff’ of negative experiences. The way to avoid this is to work through your own dating prejudices first.
When we think that relationships will be successful without any work from us, is it any wonder we continue to attract on-going disappointment? Not only are you wasting valuable time you are slowly chipping away at your own confidence and self worth. When you have low morale, you are susceptible to staying in bad relationships simply because you ‘can’t be bothered’ or don’t have the energy to leave. Every now and then, it’s good to check in and question your motives.
Rather than continue with your usual predictable dating strategies, use any spare time you do have to concentrate… on yourself! When you know yourself, it is much easier to become the best person you can be – and attract equally a well deserving opposite sex. Not only will self-awareness help you assess your relationships, it will also be a major boost to your self esteem.
– Have you been single for a long time with no good reason?
– Do you always find fault or an excuse to get out of a new relationship?
– Does your love life feel like a bad car crash?
– Get some honest feedback – from a friend / ex/ coach
– Make some changes around said feedback
– Consult the experts where necessary
Play to a higher standard
Keep your standards in dating as high as you keep them at work. That means asking for what you deserve without being unreasonable. Do not undersell yourself to make someone like you more. That means refrain from saying yes to everything in ways that lower your personal value. Do not be the booty call, the bank loan or the constant shoulder to cry on. There are plenty of good, attractive and successful people out there who will love you just as you are so be willing to walk away when someone is taking you for granted. Trust that you still have plenty ahead of you and that you are worth waiting for.
– Do friends tell you you’re ‘too nice’?
– Do you feel a new partner’s early interest always fades away?
– Are you the one always giving in relationships?
– Pull back from a situation and see what happens
– Have a mental checklist for how you want to be treated and stick to it
– Walk away if someone disrespects you
Some people treat dating like a second job – with weekly targets, monthly timelines and annual projections. When you try too hard, you’ll only create more disappointments. The reason why you can’t force love is because it’s very much synced with the flow of nature. And as we know, nature can be complicated and slow! If you’re dating like a monster – you’re signed up to every dating website going, you’re friends are setting you up, you’re going for drinks after work with colleagues and clients alike you are going to feel exhausted! Take time out and come back again when you’re feeling ready. And when you are feeling ready, keep it simple and stick to one method. The modern dater will know speed dating is a practical and fun way to meet a whole group of singletons in one night.
Date In A Dash – a London speed dating company have a whole host of events happening around the capital, everything from bowling parties, cocktail making classes, comedy nights and lock and key parties to take your fancy.
At £20 a ticket you can expect atleast 10 dates, a good venue and friendly staff to help guide you.
So when YOU’RE ready, check it out www.dateinadash.com